It is sad that we rely on a holiday to remind us to make our loved ones feel special. Here are 10 ways to keep the sparks alive after February, 14th:
- Pick a moment, every month or two, and surprise your loved one with a romantic event (special dinner, massage, flowers, a getaway, etc.)
- Write little notes of things that remind you of your loved one all throughout the year. (I was walking through the park today and witnessed a couple holding hands and thought of you.)
- Make time for quality time. There is nobody more important than the one you love. Create time to spend with each other on a regular basis, just the two of you.
- Have a real conversation. Sit on the couch together and reminisce or ask each other questions about their dreams and wants. Get to know each other on a deeper level all throughout the year.
- Learn a new hobby together. Do something that allows the both of you to participate in something new. You’ll build teamwork, memories, and discover new things about each other.
- Hold an awards banquet for your loved one. Create a special night to honor your loved one for all they have done in your life over the past year. Do this in August, halfway between Valentine’s days.
- Do something a bit taboo together. Go to a hotel and have sex like never before. Or, create an exciting scene in your own home. Make it more exciting by going onto your patio, adding the fear of being caught. This deepens your connection in more ways than physical.
- Show your loved one that you don’t care about what other people think of your love. When at a place with several people, kneel or stand on a bench and serenade your princess or prince. Make it a habit and you will learn to tune others out, those who will soon envy your love.
- Do something from the heart that is challenging. If your loved one admires the French language, go learn French and recite a poem that you wrote, in French. Then, go take French lessons together (see #5).
- Embrace your loved one. There is nothing that creates sparks like real hugs and holding. Regardless of how tired, stressed, distracted you may be, always, always, always, make time to hold the one you love; preferably for a lengthy while.
There is no excuse not to display your affection toward the one who has committed themselves to being with you. Love is a rare gift and, if you are willing to keep the sparks alive for more than just one day, your relationship will soar to heights you never imagined reachable.
Jaymes Ian Woode